KhizooologyThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Connection grows through repeated, respectful responses.
Big Idea
Gottman and Silver emphasize friendship, constructive interaction, and shared meaning within intimate relationships.
Know each other
Knowledge of a partner's concerns and hopes supports everyday understanding.
Affection and turning toward
Small bids for connection offer chances to express appreciation and respond.
Accept influence
Listening to a partner's perspective helps decisions become collaborative.
Handle conflict
The framework distinguishes workable disagreements from recurring tensions that need understanding.
Meaning and safety
Shared purpose matters, but communication exercises are not a remedy for coercion or abuse.
Notooo Take
In a safe relationship, ask a specific question about your partner's current concerns.
- Book ideas for reflection, not individualized medical or mental-health treatment.
One Thing to Keep
Connection grows through repeated, respectful responses.